The idea of having a threesome remains one of the most popular sexual fantasies for both males and females.  In addition to some of the pop culture hype it gets, there are plenty of reasons why anyone would be looking to engage in a threesome and if it’s something that tickles your fancy, you should be able to give it a shot.

Whether you’re single, in a committed relationship, looking to join another couple as a third wheel or inviting a third person into yours, or maybe you’re just trying it out with a bunch of friends or even strangers, having a threesome is much easier than you may think.

A threesome is a lot more exciting than regular sex as it offers more lips, holes, hands, sounds, tastes, scents and much more. With a threesome, you can learn a lot more about your sexual self, explore your gender identity and sexuality, heighten your intimacy and communication between your partners and fulfil what might even be a lifelong fantasy.

Despite how exciting threesomes can be, the difference between the number of people who fantasize about having a threesome versus the number of people who are actually engaging in it is a lot bigger than you might have been led to believe.

In a survey of over 4,000 adults conducted by sex researcher and educationist Justin Lehmiller, PhD, about 97 per cent of men and 87 per cent of women fantasize about engaging in sexual activities with more than one person. While the survey didn’t break down these figures into specifics, another research suggests that only 18 per cent of men and 10 per cent of women have actually had a threesome.

This difference can be a sad consequence of living in a society that has such a negative view on sexual preferences, leaving only the kinkiest among us with the courage to engage in it. However, a threesome isn’t a fantasy you can casually engage in as it requires some level of planning to accomplish.

If you have a partner you would want to have a threesome with, a wrong approach would be to spring it up as a surprise. Introducing a third person into your sexual relationship requires tact and lots of communication. But if you’re single and looking for someone else, the approach would be slightly different as you would have to explore different mediums to find a suitable partner.

Whether you’re single or in a relationship, all you need to live out your fantasy of engaging in a threesome is confidence and most times, due to numerous reasons, people are riddled with guilt and this fantasy ends up becoming a pipe dream. To overcome this, on a live sex cam, you can take part in a URL sex party and set the tone for your threesome experience in real life. You can choose what sexual position works best for you, what gender combination you prefer—whether male-female-male or female-female-male—and what level of intimacy you’re comfortable with, amongst other things.

Also, you can explore dating apps that are tailored to cater for such kinks or encourage open relationships. There, you’re likely to meet people who would share the same fantasy and would be willing to swing it with you or with your partner.

With all this prior preparation, when you’re finally ready to dive in, there’s just one rule you would have to abide by which is making everyone feel safe, respected and comfortable. Once that has been done, it is now up to you to decide who does what, how and when during the sexual activity.

Remember the key to achieving your fantasy of engaging in a threesome is having the confidence to talk it out with your partner, if you have one, being comfortable with a third person in the bedroom and knowing what would be pleasurable. All of which can be aided by your interactions with performers on a live sex cam.